"How can I avoid having an argument" -- very easy:
- Read what I have said (paying close attention, perhaps, to places where I have repeated myself).
- If you think I have argued for X, do not immediately (and repeatedly!) present an argument against X; instead, DOUBLE-CHECK to see whether or not I have EVER argued for X. If unsure, ask whether I am aiming for X.
- On the hostility point: Why would you point out the value of volunteers' time, unless you're implying that I do not value volunteers' time? I don't know why you'd make the point to begin with, but if you must make the point, perhaps you could also acknowledge that everybody with a stake in the extension (including newsletter subscribers and newsletter publishers, and also the person you are talking to) are also volunteers whose time should be valued.
In language that will perhaps be more familiar to you:
"When objections are raised, they are discussed with the crew, who may stop the boat to fix the problems or sail back to previous stages."
I have requested that something be discussed with the crew, and I have asked questions about the boat's immediate and longer-term destinations. I have also updated the documentation of the boat's destinations, as my understanding improves.
I have NEVER ONCE said that the boat must be stopped, or that we should turn the boat around. Yet, you repeatedly state as a premise that it's my position, and then you run off on all kinds of irrelevant tangents.
I have, though, suggested that perhaps the boat could communicate better with the world outside the boat about its destination, and the benefits of it getting there. After all, this isn't a mere pleasure cruise, is it? Doesn't the captain hope his voyage will improve things for a collection of people outside the boat?
-Pete Forsyth (talk) 16:29, 12 January 2017 (UTC)