Thanks, I've seen your efforts and help with the cross-wiki gadget mess we currently have.
Cross-wiki load.php requests are, however, discouraged as they can and will cause several undocumented behaviors which should not be dependent on and bugs that will not be fixed (since it's not an official feature).
ResourceLoader 2.0 will introduce the concept of using "Shared gadgets" from a declared "Foreign Gadget Repository" (like Commons is for files) which will do this much nicer and natively, thus removing the need to have a 1-line gadget importing it from another wiki.
Untill RL2.0 is ready, I recommend not wasting time with temporary solutions that are not supported and may break at any time. The legacy solutions currently around are no worse than before ResourceLoader made it's introduction and they will continue to work for a while, so I'd say stick to whatever it is now (such as action=raw).